Miscarriage at any time in a pregnancy can be a painful experience that affects your whole being – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Unfortunately, women’s experiences of miscarriage are often avoided or ignored in our culture. Women may feel discouraged, ashamed, sad, confused, and depressed, and receive the message that it is not culturally acceptable to share these feelings or to even tell people that they have had a miscarriage. Many women wish to have a memorial, but we don’t have any rituals or traditions for grieving after a miscarriage. I hope in time our culture will realize how important it is that we recognize and honor women’s experiences of miscarriage and provide the physical, emotional, and spiritual support and women deserve.
Midwife and herbalist Aviva Jill Romm offers insights into the causes of miscarriage and suggestions for preventing miscarriage. I recommend her advice because she approaches the treatment of miscarriage from a natural and holistic point of view.
Physical and emotional causes of miscarriage:
~ baby was not healthy
~ hormonal imbalances
~ cervical looseness
~ nutritional deficiencies
~ fear, anxiety, or ambivalence about the pregnancy, birth, or becoming a parent
~ unresolved issues in your relationship
Recommendations for preventing future miscarriages:
~ relax and rest
~ take warm baths
~ keep yourself warm
~ avoid cold foods. According to traditional Chinese medicine, pregnancy is considered a ‘hot’ condition and that the womb needs warmth to nourish a baby. Cold food moves your energy downwards and this heavy downward flow of ‘cold energy’ is believed to cause miscarriage. Eat warm foods such as soups, stews, and hot cereals and grains, and drink warm water.
~ wait until you have had at least three regular periods before trying to conceive
~ herbal remedy that contains wild yam, partridge berry, false unicorn roots, cramp bark, black haw, red raspberry leaf in either a tea or tincture (seek advice from a certified herbalist)
~ acupuncture treatments and traditional Chinese herbal remedies
~ reflect, understand, and work through any fears, anxieties, or ambivalence you may feel about being pregnant, giving birth, or becoming a parent
~ resolve any issues you are having in your relationship
~ communicate with your baby in your womb, tell your baby how loved and wanted they are
~ create a ‘pregnancy alter’ where you put special things that symbolize a healthy pregnancy and birth
~ nurture your body – Aviva Jill Romm says “try to love your body and don’t blame yourself for miscarrying” (The Natural Pregnancy Book)
I hope these insights and recommendations offer you comfort and support and that you will enjoy a healthy pregnancy and birth soon.